Enlightened Consent

Kinky, Polyamorous, and LGBTQ+ friendly SAcred sexuality coaching

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Founder: Ico (Incredibly Caring Organism) Edward Fish

Welcome to Enlightened Consent

We are co-creating a world of Enlightened Consent, where Everything Consensual is Honored and Honoring Your Authentic Truth so you can have relationships that you LOVE and Thrive in!

Those who identify as Kinky, Polyamorous, or Queer hire me to become clear on their sexual needs, become fully sexually expressed, and completely fall in love with who they truly are because so many aren’t clear on what fulfills their heart, are told that there’s something wrong with their sexual desires and feel shame and guilt around what turns them on. I help them to experience clarity of what they desire, congruency with their sexual cravings, and easy communication with potential partners.

Bottom line, Kinky, Polyamorous, and Queer identified people experience being completely seen, honored, and loved!

Honoring Your Authentic Truth

We work with ALL gender identities and sexual orientations in our relationship coaching. The way that you identify and label yourself is valid!

All LGBTQ+ people are welcome and accepted here as they choose to self-identify, including preferred pronouns.

We love working with people that are into or beginning to explore BDSM and/or ethical forms of non-monogamy, like Polyamory as part of their dating lives and sexual self-expression.

If you’re desiring vanilla, heterosexual, monogamous relationships, you are welcome here too!

Do you want to experience being seen, honored and loved for who you really are?

Is there something greater that you would like to have or experience in your dating life? Is there something going on in our current relationship(s) that just drive you up the wall? Are you wanting to create a new relationship and feel stuck? Have you been hurt in previous relations and wall your heart off from others to protect yourself to ensure you never get hurt like that again?

If you answer “yes” to one or more of the above, our Sacred Sexuality Sessions will be able to help you.

Book your FREE 30 minute mini-session as our gift to you and discover how we can help you feel completely seen, honored, and loved.

During a consultation:

You will be heard, seen, and validated.

You will get a taste of what it’s like to work with us.

You will be given an opportunity to go deeper with us in service of you creating relationship(s) and a love life that you love and THRIVE in!

Click to Schedule 30 minute Love Life Breakthrough Session for $30

See What it's Like in sessions with ico

Sabina Beachdell

Before my session with Ico, I had actually just come off of another coaching session with someone where I had just gotten to this point of like, "oh god this again, like, Am I going to be dealing with this forever I don't know what to do differently". I felt frustrated and stuck and like this pattern is just unbreakable. And I was feeling very frustrated. Very stuck.

After my very first session with Ico I felt soft and excited. The approach that we took actually unblocked everything I was feeling when I got on the call.

I feel free and curious and unblocked which is just so exciting, so meaningful to me, and this moment. Yeah, I feel like I know I have such a clear outline of exactly how to proceed in relation to myself, and I did not have that earlier. I felt very in my head, and very frustrated and very unclear.

I feel capable and I know how to move forward now. I like have language and structure for how to move forward for how to work with the things that previously had been frustrating and sticky and just not things I wanted to work with. I feel like I have both like a cognitive plan in place, and a much clearer understanding of how my psyche has been behaving and acting. And in response like how to work with that in a way that feels like exciting and playful and fun and celebratory and nourishing and just like easy, which is so nice.

I do a lot of sessions with a lot of different types of healers and coaches and guides and kind of a junkie for it, I love it. I'm insatiable. Maybe once before, out of 30 to 50 experiences like this, I've walked away feeling like that was worth every second of my time, I would invest in that time again, like that is exactly what I needed to unblock me. And this session with Ico. I feel exactly that way.

I know that I can trust this space and Ico to actually get me to the other side of something that I feel blocked or stuck in and that to me is invaluable. I'm so grateful!

I would do a session with Ico if I were you, and you want what I just said that I got, I would highly recommend that if it feels right for you.

It helps to allow yourself to have faith in yourself, and in the magical realms which are so potent. Let yourself see what you see let yourself experience what you experience. If you need help with that, I think Ico is an incredible human to practice that with.

If you're already well versed in it, Ico is an incredible person to just meet you right where you're at with it. There's so much information available. We can balance our heads and what we're capable of seeing when our eyes are closed, and you deserve all of that information when you're ready for it.

Clare Barnes

I had this inner resistance to the amount of kind of life force pleasure Kundalini that that I was experiencing I felt quite wary of it I felt it particularly on my sacral and root chakras I just had this tightness. And I felt this was manifesting in my life as being resistant to going out meeting people feeling like this sort of inner and outer block really to just being and just enjoying life.

My first session was just an amazing experience. I felt so expansive and at peace, just this enormous joy and humor at the block, which sounds weird but it was like it was so when I saw the block, it was just so silly and so playful and just beautiful so I felt able to alchemize and shift something in my awareness that I've really struggled with for a long time in such a natural easy way which was really powerful and I just feel really at peace in my body and relaxed around my hips now. There's a lot more spaciousness in there and I'm not feeling freaked out by my own life force, which is great.

I feel like a big sort of illusion that I was carrying about is now gone. The worry about "Is it safe to feel this much love this much pleasure this much life?" is just falling away, so I I don't feel like I'm going to be sabotaging myself like I was. So I feel like there's a nice flow opened up where I am now just super excited to go out, meet new people play have wonderful pleasurable experiences and sensuality. I just feel like all resistance is just falling away, which is really exciting.

Ico holds the space beautifully, the way Ico reflects back what I've shared was really healing in itself, because I felt so heard, and acknowledged and Ico literally said exactly mirrored back what I shared, you know, without any putting any of their own meaning on which is really powerful to receive. And yeah, the shamanic journey and healing journey we went on was akin to some of the plants harmonies I've done it was really powerful, which is beautiful. Yeah, really beautiful. So, go for a session with Ico. I recommend it highly.

Merak Von Noctem

Before asking for help, I was in one of the worst depressive states of my life. Being an empath I allowed myself to take others thoughts, feelings and emotions on as my own, add on that this was smack in the middle of covid and social unrest to boot.

I had started on a journey to heal, and I knew this was going to be some of the hardest work I have ever done, bar none. I took on medication, shadow work, asking myself what works and doesn't work for me.

It wasn't until I found that last and import missing piece in Ico that I didn't realize I was missing to start bringing it all together. He helped with that deeper inner work that is difficult, if not impossible, to do on one's own.

With their knowledge of guided techniques, communication, love, understanding and awareness, let's not forget safety and protection of my needs, I have now been able to not just love myself, also to be IN love With myself for the first time in my entire life!

My confidence is through the roof without having an ego! I understand my wants, needs and desires better that ever! I know who I am on an intimate level better than I could have ever thought possible!

My anxiety is gone! My depression isn't a thing! Dark thoughts don't control me or my days anymore! My inner child is freer and no longer scared to play, laugh and sing!

It's an amazing feeling to be able to control the dark things as apposed to allowing then to control me!